Chapter 9

“I never excluded you, you’ve done that yourself by all but telling me that I’m useless and I don’t belong and Ms. Perfect Dorothea is Jon’s rightful wife. If you were in my position who would you feel? How would you like being told you don’t belong within minutes of meeting someone? Seriously I’m going to another room now these kids won’t stop kicking me.” Danielle then waddled out of the room and Jon looked over to his
mom and dad.

“I can’t make her accept you mom, you dug your own hole with this one. I can however offer you my other 4 children, what a bargain right?” He laughed trying to get some tension out of the room, what Danielle said was true she had been told to stay away from stress and Jon didn’t favor an ulcer coming back due to this relationship between the two most important women in his life.

Jon’s dad smiled and told him to get the kids and they will take them for the night to visit. Jon does as his dad requested and before long he has strict instructions that he is not allowed to let anyone touch his hair at all or else. Also Jon has no desire to aggravate his wife at all therefore he is going to obey dad’s rules to make his hair something that Danielle will play with.

After Danielle and Jon hug and kiss the kids goodbye Dani and Jon return to the bedroom. She had been laying down a lot lately which was good because so far they've avoided mandatory bed rest for her. Jon crawled into bed with his wife and kissed her shoulder, "So baby what are we gonna name our babies?"

"Jon I guess we really do need to think about this don't we?" She laughed and turned to face him as he sat up against the headboard reaching for a pad of paper while Dani put her head on his lap.

"Ok baby lets just start naming names, anything we can think of right now and we'll go through them together when we have a list. You first, got any boy names in mind?" He laughed knowing at least one of the babies was a boy, and not a shy one at that.

"Yep, and this is one I'm going to be quite adamant about. Jayden Richard Bongiovi."

"Seriously? Richard?" Jon asked completely shocked.

"Yes he's your brother, a hell of a lot more of a brother than Matt or Tony are to you." Dani told him.

"Seriously?" Jon is astonished. "Why do you say that?"

"Who was there for you when you were getting those shots in the neck, who knows what you felt when you won your first award, who has kept more secrets of yours than anyone. Trust me Jon I know how close you are to Richie and what's odd is I've only met Matt 3 times in the whole time we've been together."

"Wow you do know me well. I like Michael, Joshua, Justin, Haylee, Kurt."

"Keith, Kayla, Kennedy. Tamara, Tasha, Tara" Danielle offered and they sat there for the next 20 min just naming names as Jon wrote them all down. He had already circled Jayden as the primary winner in boys names.

After they had 2 pages of names written down Jon and Danielle started the task of attempting to agree on them.

"How about Jayden, Julianne and Jenna?" Jon asked his wife.

"No."

"ok that was a quick answer care to tell me the reasoning?"

"Sure, lets say its Christmas and Steph and I are upstairs and you have all the kids downstairs with you, they are attempting to show you how to play a video game and then I need to call you for dinner. Jon, Jesse, Jake, Romeo, Jayden, Juliane and Jenna come up for dinner. Notice something about that?"

"Well they don't sound all that good together, to many J's." Jon laughed. "But damn its a great letter of the alphabet."

“Jon what will your parenting style be?” Danielle asked him when they couldn’t agree on names.

“What do you mean baby? You’ve seen me with the kids.” He responded.

“So that means you expect me to be exactly like Dot is? So whatever you two decided on how to raise kids is how you and I will do it?”

“no that’s not what I mean baby, I just mean that I’m not a very strict parent, I didn’t have horrible strict parents growing up I had a childhood of safety, it was ok to make a mistake in my house, is that kind of how you were raised? I got that impression from your mom.” Jon asked and Dani smiled.

“That’s pretty much how I was raised. What are your views on discipline?” She asked.

“I like to reason with the kids if I can. It's much easier now cos they understand words.” Jon told her.

“So you believe in Time Out and Naughty Spot type of discipline?” Danielle asked. Since she was so big now, she did little more than watch tv or read so parenting styles have been plentiful.

“Baby I’m gonna be honest, I left 90% of the parenting of the first 4 to Dot. Personally my parents spanked us and we knew who was the parent, we didn’t have 80million gadgets and crap in our rooms so when we got sent to our room it sucked. I’m going to pretty much rely on your to make the decisions as to how you want these 3 parented then let me know and I’ll comply.” Jon said taking the easy way out.

“No, unacceptable.” Dani states bluntly.

“What do you mean no?” He asked.

“I mean NO you are not going to leave 90% of the decisions up to me. We are parents to these three, your sperm and my eggs got together for a party I didn’t make them by myself therefore I’m not raising them by myself.” Danielle laid the facts down with Jon.

"you want my opinion?" Jon asked.

"Of course I do you helped make our beautiful babies." Danielle stated wondering why he thought otherwise.

"Well I wasn't really asked with the first group of kids. I mean before Steph we kind of talked about do we want the kids to be religious, will we spank them and that was about it. I was gone 70% of the time per year so normally Dot would come up with a rule for the kids, and I'd just agree to it. She was the one home so I let her lead."

"Jon I don't want it that way. I'm scared to death to parent these kids." Danielle rubbed her belly. What if I get it wrong?" She admitted to him honestly.

"Baby." Jon whispered wrapping her into his arms as best as he can. "As long as you love our kids and you don't intentionally harm them we're golden. They aren't all that difficult. When they push your buttons you switch places with me or walk away. Never hit and never spank in anger always be calm when disciplining so its never your emotions making the corrections its your head. Knowing that we'll be fine."

Danielle laid back against Jon. "What do we do if your kids are over our house and Jesse and one of ours does something wrong together - how do we punish them, your and Dots way our your and my way?"